I have been researching a family ancestor, Charles Frank Field- 1850-1950, for a book about him and his times. He was a first generation South Australian, his father and mother having arrived in the new colony in 1839. My grandfather was his only child from a second marriage born right up on the Queensland border of NSW in Yalpunga, a town I believe no longer exists. Born without any hospital and probably no medical assistance. On the day the First World War broke out, my grandfather broke his elbow and so was medically unfit to enlist. His wife, my grandmother, lost her fiancĂ© in the Dardanelles, better known as Gallipoli and married my grandfather instead in 1922. I just recently found out through a relative’s results on Ancestory.com that he may have had an illegitimate child prior to his marriage, a child he never found out about. He was a decent man according to the people who knew him- he died when I was 6 months old- and I believe he would have married this woman, if indeed, she was having his child.
My father was in the Royal Navy which he joined as a signalman at the age of 17 because he was a Portsmouth boy and wanted to do his bit for Britain in World War Two. He left Scarpa Flow in Scotland on the destroyer ‘Pennywort’ but during his tour he fell from one deck to another and injured his knee and was sent to convalesce in Ireland where he caught Scarlet Fever. He didn’t linger long enough in the bitter North Atlantic to be torpedoed by a German U-boat or bombed by the Luftwaffe. Reading Alistair McLean’s book ‘HMS Ulysses’ – see my last post- had the hairs raised on my neck thinking Dad had been in this harrowing conflict where survivors of ships who’d been attacked died in minutes in the Atlantic’s freezing waters. He survived the Scarlet Fever and joined the destroyer ‘HMS Ursa’ instead and sailed for Australia.
He met my mother who was a corporal in the WAAAF-‘Women’s Auxiliary Australian Airforce’ at a picnic in Melbourne and they were due to meet again the next day. They almost missed each other because they were standing under different clocks at Flinders St Station but Mum’s friend Joy, saw Dad and told her where he was. He went on with his ship to join the British Pacific Fleet and help liberate Hong Kong from the Japanese.
After the war and they were married, they spent 13 months apart while he was being demobbed- demobilized- in the UK because my grandfather feared he would never see his daughter again if she went with him. He returned to Australia in 1946 and they rarely spent a night away from each other in the next almost 60 years- one month shy- of their marriage. My father died in 2005 and his wife, my Mum, is still alive.
So I am here due to the confluence of a series of bad luck, good luck, stoicism, endurance and love: If my great grandfather’s first wife hadn’t died at the age of 32 after having had eight children, he wouldn’t have married my great grandmother. If my grandfather had not broken his elbow, he might have died in WW1. If he was the father of that little girl and knew it, he wouldn’t have married my grandmother. If my grandmother’s fiancĂ© had lived, she wouldn’t have married my grandfather and my mother wouldn’t have been born. If my father hadn’t injured his knee, he might have drowned in the North Atlantic or he may never have been sent to Australia. If Mum’s friend hadn’t recognized Dad, a man she’d only met once, waiting forlornly at the station in Melbourne my parents would not have got married.
And I thank my lucky stars that the Doctor attending Mum while she was having me didn’t prescribe her Thalidomide for her morning sickness.
Looking at your family history makes you realize we are all here by a tremendous series of events, any one of which might have denied us existence if they had turned out differently.
Cherish your life, my friends, cherish your existence.
au revoir, mes amies!